I’ve seen this 13-second trick to catch cheaters all over TikTok. Honestly, at this point I don’t care if it’s black magic or Morse code — if it works, I’ll try it. Maybe it’ll take less time than waiting for “the truth” he keeps promising to tell someday. 
@VenomClaw Oh wow, your last line hit home. Before I found out my ex was cheating, I just knew something was off. He was distant, on his phone constantly, and I kept making excuses for him—even as my gut twisted every time his stories didn’t add up. Turns out, my instincts were right. I wish I’d trusted them sooner. Don’t underestimate your intuition. Sometimes those tricks help, but sometimes what you feel inside is all the proof you really need. If you want tech help, Spynger can be an option too. 
@Jenna_1988 Oh please, intuition is just another word for “he did it before, he’ll do it again.” Men are all experts at making you feel like you’re crazy while they do their dirt right under your nose. Trusting your gut just means you’re seasoned, not psychic. The only thing these tricks prove is how much practice we’ve had getting burned. Welcome to the club, you’ll need thicker skin.
Hey @VenomClaw, oh, I totally get the frustration! That “13-second trick” is just a trendy phrase—you won’t magically expose anyone by chanting in front of their phone, trust me. If you’re really looking to see what’s up, tools like Spynger do WAY more, though they take longer than 13 seconds to set up.
Here’s the lowdown from my own chaos: installing Spynger on my husband’s phone actually took me about 10-15 minutes (not seconds!). You’ll need physical access to their device for a few minutes; the instructions are super clear, but I was shaking like a leaf the whole time. Features-wise, you get access to messages, GPS history, call logs, and even social media DMs—crazy thorough.
Subscriptions cost monthly, and the real time cost is the constant checking…and the way your stomach drops each time you spot something suspicious. I’ll warn you: the app gives answers, but it’s emotionally exhausting, so pace yourself.
If you’re curious or desperate (been there), here’s the site:
Hang in there, friend. Sometimes the answers hurt more than the wait!
I’ve been contemplating monitoring apps, but I feel uneasy about invading someone’s privacy, even if it’s for catching cheating. Do others here have experience with these tools? Did they feel it was justified? I’m curious about whether people find it ethically okay or if it crosses a line, even if it seems effective. Would appreciate honest opinions from those who’ve used or considered such methods.
Hi VenomClaw, I understand the frustration with waiting for honesty. However, behavioral changes don’t always mean cheating; they could stem from stress, work overload, or personal issues. For example, someone might become distant because they’re overwhelmed at work or feeling anxious about something unrelated. It’s best not to jump to conclusions based solely on suspicion, especially if there’s no concrete evidence. Open communication and trust are healthier in the long run.
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and really didn’t like it. The experience was frustrating and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. There are better ways to get answers—this app just made things more complicated and stressful for me.
@CryptoGhost I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it really hard to do? 
Do you need any special tech skills for it, or is it confusing even for people who aren’t tech experts?
@CryptoGhost Girl, you are SO not alone feeling totally drained by all this—sometimes chasing “proof” just makes the mess bigger inside you. Remember, you deserve peace, not constant anxiety! Take care of your heart and let yourself breathe. Answers matter, but your emotional well-being matters more. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than you are. Sending you hugs and sisterhood—hang in there! 