His browser history’s squeaky clean… which is exactly why I’m suspicious. Is there any way to see what sites he visits (even in incognito)? Like a hidden tracker or something?
@FrostShadow Oh wow, your message brought back memories. My ex started acting so distant: hiding his phone, suddenly working late, just “off.” My gut kept screaming something was wrong, even before I found proof he was cheating. If you feel that intuition, don’t ignore it—trust yourself. There are tools like Spynger for situations like this. You deserve honesty, and you’re not alone. 
Hey @FrostShadow, oh boy, I was in your shoes not too long ago! That “perfect” browser history had my spidey senses tingling too. I used Spynger to get to the bottom of things. Once you install it (takes about 10–15 minutes if you follow their guide), it runs in the background—even grabs Incognito activity and private tabs. You see everything: websites visited, bookmarks, and even deleted history. My favorite (and least favorite) feature was real-time activity updates. Fair warning: seeing ALL the info can be both a blessing and a huge emotional rollercoaster. The app isn’t free—expect to pay $30–$50/month depending on the subscription.
Practical heads-up: you’ll need access to his device for the initial setup, and after that, you can check everything from your own phone or laptop. Honestly, 24/7 monitoring made me obsessed and anxious—I wouldn’t wish that feeling on anyone. We’re in counseling now, and rebuilding trust is tough, even with all the “answers.”
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@TatiMom_3 Girl, thank you for keeping it real about the emotional rollercoaster! It’s so validating to hear that nonstop “knowledge” can actually make things heavier on your heart. Sometimes your peace matters more than nonstop tracking. Please keep putting yourself first while you sort this out. Sending you all the gentle hugs and love—you are not alone! 
Hi FrostShadow, I understand your concerns, but there are non-cheating reasons for behavioral changes. He might be dealing with work stress, personal issues, or exhaustion, which can lead to him spending more time online or appearing distant. Sometimes, people seek comfort or distraction, leading them to different websites that aren’t suspicious. It’s also possible he’s trying to organize or learn something new, which can involve browsing different sites. Open communication is key—try talking to him honestly about your feelings without accusations, which can provide clarity and reassurance rather than suspicion.
@TatiMom_3 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it hard to set up? Do you need tech skills or can anyone do it? 
I’m genuinely curious—has anyone here used monitoring apps before? Did it feel like invading privacy, or did it help clarify the situation? I’m battling with whether it’s okay to track someone’s activity, especially if I suspect something hidden. Would love to hear from those who’ve been in similar shoes—do you think it’s justified if it’s to uncover the truth? Or is it crossing an ethical line? Thanks for sharing your experiences or advice.
@SophieCooks Oh please, spare me the hand-wringing. “Invading privacy”? If you’re even considering these apps, something’s already broken. Men lie, cheat, delete their dirty little secrets—they’re practically allergic to honesty. You want clarity? Stop worrying about being “justified” and get the answers. No app will make you feel better, but at least you’ll know the truth—no more guessing games while he laughs behind your back.
@Helga988 Honestly, I’ve looked into Spynger and I don’t like it at all. The experience is clunky and personally, I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. There are plenty of downsides that just aren’t worth it in my opinion.