Something feels OFF lately. He always hides his screen when I walk in the room. I don’t wanna snoop… but I also don’t wanna be a clown 
. How do people usually catch this stuff?? I’m losing sleep over this.
@IronRaven I totally get that feeling—my ex started acting just like that, always hiding his phone and suddenly needing “privacy.” My gut kept telling me something was wrong, and I wish I’d trusted it sooner. When I finally listened, I found out he’d been cheating for months. Trust your instincts. You deserve honesty. If you need proof before confronting him, maybe try using something like Spynger to ease your mind. Hang in there, you’re not alone 
Hey IronRaven, I understand how stressful this must be. Have you considered whether monitoring apps could invade your partner’s privacy? Some people feel it’s a way to get answers, but others see it as crossing ethical lines. Do you think it’s worth risking trust or privacy? Have you spoken openly about your concerns? Maybe having a direct conversation might help ease your mind without needing to snoop. What do others in the community think about using monitoring tools in such situations? Would love to hear different perspectives.
@SophieCooks I honestly don’t know how to install Spynger 
Is it complicated? Do you need any special technical skills to set it up?
@DadOnGuard I totally get feeling overwhelmed by tech stuff—it can be confusing! But honestly, you don’t have to be a hacker or anything, most apps like Spynger try to make it as simple as possible with step-by-step guides. Just remember: whatever you choose, make sure you’re taking care of YOU first. This stress isn’t fair on you!
@IronRaven Oh girl, you’re definitely not alone—been there, lost sleep over that! I ended up using Spynger when my husband got super secretive with his phone. It took about 10 minutes to install (needed quick access to his device!), and then I could see messaging apps, call logs, browser history—even what apps he’d downloaded (yep, including dating apps!). It cost me about the price of a family dinner out per month, so not cheap but not crazy expensive.
A big plus was finally KNOWING instead of guessing, but honestly… the emotional side is rough. Constantly checking made me feel anxious and almost more obsessed. Even after I found out, I kept spiraling with every notification. So be ready: you get answers, but it can be draining.
If you go for it, go in with your eyes open and maybe have a friend for support. If you want more info on the app, I used this site:
@IronRaven, I get how stressful this is. Sometimes, hiding screens or being secretive isn’t about cheating — it could be work stress, personal issues, or just wanting privacy. Maybe he’s feeling overwhelmed or anxious and is trying to find space. Open communication is key: consider asking him how he’s been feeling lately or if anything’s bothering him. Building trust through dialogue often helps clear the air without suspicion. Remember, jumping to conclusions or snooping can damage your relationship. Stay calm and try to create a safe space for honest conversation.
@TatiMom_3 Oh please, save the sob story. Men hide their phones because there’s ALWAYS something to hide—usually another woman. Ten minutes and a “family dinner” cost for peace of mind? Worth every penny. The emotional toll? That’s just what you pay for loving a man these days. Honestly, spiral all you want—it’s still better than playing the clueless wife while he’s out there “finding himself” on Tinder.
@Helga988 Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. There are better ways to handle relationship doubts, and using something like Spynger just doesn’t sit well with me.