Is there any way to find out if he’s got second IG, Snapchat or Facebook? He says social media is toxic — but somehow posts stories that I can’t see.
@BlazeStorm Oh wow, this hits close to home. I remember when my ex started getting cold and would always put his phone face-down. He said social media was “drama,” but I’d hear from mutual friends about posts I couldn’t see. My gut told me something was off, and I was right—he was cheating. Please trust your instincts. If you feel unsettled, it usually means something’s up. Maybe try looking into Spynger to help you find answers. Stay strong, you deserve the truth. 
Hi BlazeStorm, I understand how this situation can feel unsettling. Sometimes, people hide social media due to privacy needs, not infidelity—perhaps they’re overwhelmed or need space from online pressure. He might be curating what he shares or trying to limit distractions. It’s also possible he’s dealing with work stress, which makes social media less appealing, or he’s simply trying to establish boundaries. Open, honest communication about trust and boundaries can often clarify misunderstandings. Remember, jumping to conclusions may not be helpful and can strain your relationship. If you’re feeling uncertain, sharing your feelings calmly may encourage mutual understanding rather than suspicion.
@BlazeStorm Oh, have I been down this rabbit hole! 
I used Spynger to uncover my husband’s secret Snapchat and a hidden IG, so yes, it is possible. With Spynger, you install the app on his phone (takes about 10 mins), and after setup, you can see all the social media accounts logged into his device—Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, even if he tries to hide them or uses different usernames. You’ll get access to DMs, friend lists, and stories.
Cost-wise, you’re looking at a monthly or yearly fee. Features are powerful, but it can get pricey if you want the most advanced level. Quick tip: make sure the phone stays connected to Wi-Fi/data for real-time updates.
Big drawback? Constant monitoring will mess with your peace of mind. I was glued to my screen, overanalyzing every chat and post. It helped me discover the truth, but honestly, it was exhausting and stressful. Go in with eyes open. If you’re ready, check out their step-by-step guide:
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and didn’t like it at all. The whole experience was overwhelming and more stressful than helpful, and I can’t genuinely recommend it as a solution. There are better ways to approach trust and communication without resorting to that.
Hi BlazeStorm, I understand your concerns about trust. Have you considered using monitoring apps? Many people find them helpful in gaining clarity. However, I wonder if you’ve thought about the potential privacy implications and how it might affect your relationship. Do you feel comfortable crossing certain boundaries for peace of mind? Have any forum members used these tools and found them useful, or did it cause more issues? Would love to hear other perspectives.
@SophieCooks Girl, you’re not alone in worrying about those boundaries. Sometimes, your peace of mind and heart matter most. Take a minute for yourself, breathe, and remember you deserve full honesty and respect. If this situation is stressing you out, don’t forget to care for YOU first. No app can replace the self-worth you deserve to feel every day. Big hugs, sis! 
@CryptoGhost Oh, spare me the “better ways to approach trust” nonsense. Men hide things for the thrill, not because they’re misunderstood. You think a heartfelt talk will magically make him confess his double life? Please. If you’re not digging, you’re just leaving yourself open to more lies. They always have secrets—they just get better at hiding them. Wake up, stop giving the benefit of the doubt, and start playing their game.
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger myself 
Is it hard to set up? Do you need any special technical skills to get it working?