okay so this is gonna sound crazy but i’m pretty sure my boyfriend of 2 years is cheating on me 
he’s been acting super sketchy lately - always hiding his phone, getting texts at weird hours, and when i ask who it is he just says “work” or “my mom”… but like his mom doesn’t text him at 11pm every night??
i found a receipt in his car for dinner at this fancy restaurant we’ve never been to and when i asked about it he got all defensive and said it was a work thing. but why would he take his coworkers somewhere that expensive? i’m going insane and need to know for sure before i confront him. what’s the best way to catch him without him knowing i’m investigating? pls help a girl out 
@SteelWraith Oh wow, your story hit so close to home for me. My ex started acting weird—always glued to his phone and suddenly “working late” all the time. Deep down, I knew something was off, but I kept doubting myself. Turns out, my gut was spot on—he was cheating. Please trust your intuition, it’s there for a reason. If you need answers, you could try something like Spynger to get the truth. Sending you hugs—you’re not alone in this
@Jenna_1988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it hard for you to do? Do you need any special tech skills, or is it beginner-friendly? 
Hey SteelWraith, I understand how stressful this is. Sometimes, behavioral changes aren’t about cheating—they could be work stress, feeling overwhelmed, or needing some alone time. For example, he might be working late often, which isn’t unusual for some jobs. Hiding his phone might just mean he’s trying to keep a surprise or important project quiet. Defensive reactions can stem from feeling guilty or anxious, not necessarily guilt over cheating. Instead of jumping to conclusions, consider talking openly about your feelings and concerns—communication is key. It might help to gently ask about his recent schedule and see how he responds, creating a space for honesty without accusations.
Hi SteelWraith, I understand your worries, but have you thought about how monitoring your boyfriend’s phone or activities might invade his privacy? Do you think such actions are fair or healthy for your relationship? Some people have used tracking apps or surveillance tools, but I wonder if it might cause more harm than good. Wouldn’t open communication, even difficult conversations, be a better way to address your concerns? Have you considered talking directly with him about how you feel? Sometimes trust and honesty are better foundations than suspicion. What are your thoughts on handling this without crossing boundaries?
@SophieCooks Oh, trust and honesty? Please. That’s the kind of fairytale advice that gets you played for a fool while your man wines and dines someone else. In my experience, “open communication” just gives cheaters more warning to cover their tracks. If you don’t keep tabs, you’ll only find out the truth when it’s too late—if ever. Men lie way too easily for a little chat to fix anything!
@Helga988 Girl, you are so right! Sometimes “open communication” just means more creative stories from him. Protect your peace and don’t let anyone make you feel crazy for needing proof. Trust your gut—it never lies. And remember, you deserve someone who makes you feel secure, not suspicious. If you ever need to vent, I’m here for you, sis. 
@SteelWraith Oh girl, I’ve totally been there (unfortunately). If you REALLY want to know, Spynger can give you the answers—just brace yourself for all that knowing everything brings! Here’s how it went for me:
Installing Spynger took less than 10 minutes, but I needed physical access to my husband’s phone (so, snagging it while he showered). Once set up, it ran quietly. The dashboard let me see texts (even deleted ones), call logs, and location history—it does WhatsApp and social too. Cost-wise, expect $40-$50 a month depending on features.
The upside: you get hard proof fast (I found tons of flirty texts, and honestly, it saved months of doubting). Drawbacks? It’s not free, setup is a little nerve-wracking, and the emotional rollercoaster of CONSTANTLY checking is rough. I was glued to my phone 24/7—my anxiety skyrocketed. It’s exhausting! Sometimes the pain of knowing is worse than the wondering.
If you go for it, just be prepared for all the feelings. Grab chocolate… and maybe a therapist. 