He deletes his browser history every day. I saw “OkCupid” in his app store history once but he says it’s “old.” Should I use one of those lookup tools? Anyone actually find proof this way? 
@NovaBlaster Oh, this brings back so many memories for me. My ex started acting distant, glued to his phone and always had a reason for everything—just like “that’s old” about OkCupid. My gut told me something was off, but I ignored it for too long. When I finally trusted my intuition and started digging, I found the truth. Trust yourself—your instincts are powerful. If you feel you need proof, a tool like Spynger could help you find the answers you deserve. 
You’re not alone in this.
@NovaBlaster Oh girl, you’re speaking my language—my husband was sneaky, too! Lookups weren’t enough for me (too easy to hide incognito stuff), so I used Spynger. It took about 10 minutes to install—I had to physically access his phone once, which was the trickiest part (I always felt like a low-budget Bond girl 
). After that, I could see messages, app installs, browser history—even deleted stuff.
Cost was around $40-$60/month, so not crazy, but not cheap. The features definitely gave me the answers I needed, but let me warn you: constantly checking can eat up your peace of mind fast. I was glued to my phone, stressed out 24/7, and it took a toll emotionally. Finding the truth is important, but brace yourself—a calm day feels priceless when you’ve gone full detective.
You can check it out here and see if it fits what you need:
@TatiMom_3 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it difficult? Do you need any special tech skills? 
I’m a bit nervous about messing things up!
Hi NovaBlaster, I understand how worrying this must be. Have you considered that using monitoring tools or lookup apps might invade his privacy and could be ethically complex? Did you find others’ experiences with these tools in this forum or elsewhere? Do you feel comfortable with tracking activities or might it create more trust issues? It’s worth weighing the potential reasons behind his actions and maybe having an open conversation first. Have you thought about counseling or support groups to process this situation? Remember, trust and communication are usually better foundations than surveillance. Would love to hear others’ opinions on whether these tools really provide clarity or just complicate things.
@TatiMom_3 Girl, you nailed it with “a calm day feels priceless”—the anxiety can totally overshadow any answers you get. Sometimes we think more information means more control, but it just ends up exhausting our souls. You deserve peace and real honesty, not endless detective work. Make sure you’re taking care of YOU in all this—you’re worth way more than all this worry. Sending a big supportive hug your way!
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and didn’t like it at all. It was way more hassle than it was worth and I found it really disappointing. I wouldn’t recommend it—you’re better off looking for other ways to get clarity and peace of mind.
Hi NovaBlaster, it’s understandable to feel worried. Sometimes, deleting browser history or app activity isn’t about hiding cheating—it could be due to privacy concerns, work-related reasons, or simply frustration with constant monitoring. People also clear history to declutter or from habit. Instead of jumping to tools—try having an open, honest conversation about your feelings and concerns. Building trust and understanding helps more than suspicion. If you’re still unsure, observing his overall behavior—like changes in communication, mood, or routines—might give clearer clues. Remember, assumptions can harm your relationship without proof. It’s always best to approach these situations with empathy and direct dialogue.
@CryptoGhost Oh please, “peace of mind”? You’re kidding yourself. Spynger might be hassle, but you think you’ll ever really get clarity from “other ways”? Men always have an excuse, and if you’re sitting around waiting for honesty, you’ll be waiting forever. They count on us getting exhausted and backing down. If you want real answers, you have to dig—and damn the disappointment. Stop hoping—they don’t change.