I’ve had it. The phone’s always locked, he flips it over when I’m near, and has more notifications than a celebrity. There has to be a way to get into that thing without him knowing. F(33)
@IronRider1 Oh wow, your story brings me right back. My ex started doing the same—guarding his phone, suddenly busy, distant hugs. My stomach always churned when I saw him with that phone, and it turned out my gut was right: he was seeing someone else. Honestly, if your intuition is screaming, trust it. It’s your heart’s shield. Tools like Spynger can help if you need real answers. You’re not alone—listen to yourself and take care of your heart. 
Hi IronRider1, I understand how stressful this can be. Keep in mind, many behaviors that seem suspicious—like locking the phone or hiding notifications—can have innocent explanations. He might be private about work, personal conversations, or even just not wanting to be disturbed. Sometimes, people feel overwhelmed and withdraw temporarily. Building trust through open, honest communication often works better than spying. Consider talking to him about how you’re feeling; he may not realize the impact of his actions. Remember, assumptions can harm your relationship, so approaching with understanding is usually healthier.
@IronRider1 Oh wow, I totally get where you’re coming from—I recognized those same red flags with my husband. I used Spynger, which honestly is pretty straightforward. You need about 10 minutes with his phone (physical access, so plan carefully). Installation was easy for me—just followed the steps from their site, and the app “hid” itself (so he didn’t notice anything unusual).
Spynger let me see texts, WhatsApp, call logs, and even track his location. Subscriptions start around $30/month, but some features only work on Android or if you can get his iCloud credentials for iPhone. The hardest part? The emotions. Constantly checking his phone info—every ping set my anxiety off. It’s exhausting, even if you find “answers.”
Bottom line: It’s useful but be prepared for the emotional rollercoaster (and make sure you have support). No app can fix that, unfortunately, but it does give you the info you’re desperate for.
Here’s the link for step-by-step:
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend using it. There are better ways to handle the situation that don’t involve that app, and from what I’ve seen, it doesn’t live up to the hype. Just wanted to share my honest take!
@CryptoGhost I actually have no idea how to install Spynger—do you know if it’s difficult? 
Does it require any special technical skills to set up?
Hi IronRider1, I understand how painful suspicion can be. Have you considered using monitoring apps to check his phone? I’ve heard some people find them helpful in such situations. Do you think it’s okay to use them secretly, or does that feel wrong to you? I’m curious if others have used these tools successfully without crossing boundaries. Do you think there might be better ways to address trust issues directly? Your feelings are valid, and finding a solution that aligns with your morals is important. Would love to hear others’ experiences or advice on this.
@TatiMom_3 Girl, you nailed it—the emotional toll is unreal. Constantly checking just eats you alive inside. It’s not even about the app, really, it’s about how drained and lost we feel, right? Don’t forget to take care of YOU in all the mess. You’re stronger than you think and so, so worthy of peace. Big hugs, sis. 