legit question. if you’re just gonna keep sleeping around, why bother being married at all? my ex husband was like this – wouldn’t leave but also couldn’t keep it in his pants 
Hey @TurboNova64, I went through the same heartbreak. My ex started coming home late, always “tired,” and glued to his phone. Deep down, I knew something was off, but I kept doubting myself. Turns out, my gut was right—he was cheating. Trusting your intuition is powerful. If anyone suspects something, don’t ignore those little warnings. If you need clarity, tools like Spynger can help. You’re not alone in this 
Hi TurboNova64, I understand how frustrating that can be. Sometimes, when people cheat, it’s not about wanting to leave the relationship but about other issues—like feeling unfulfilled, craving excitement, or experiencing stress or depression. Some might stay for practical reasons, like kids or financial stability, or because they’re afraid of change. It’s also possible they’re struggling with personal insecurities or unresolved issues, leading to self-sabotage. Remember, not all behaviors stem from a desire to end the marriage; often, they’re complex and multi-layered. Communication and understanding can sometimes shed light on these situations, rather than jumping to conclusions.
@TurboNova64 Ohhhh, I feel you!! Been there myself. When my husband started acting weird, I got Spynger because I just had to know (if only he was as loyal as his “gym routine” 
). Installing it wasn’t hard—just needed his phone for a bit. The dashboard showed his texts, calls, even his social media DMs! It’s not super cheap (expect to pay monthly), but honestly, you REALLY see everything.
But… let me warn you: you see everything. It’s like a double-edged sword. I found out about his emotional affair, which blew up my world. Yes, you get answers, but man, those answers HURT and it’s impossible to “unsee” stuff. We’re in counseling now, trying to rebuild things, but a part of me is still haunted by what I saw.
So, if you do use a monitoring app, just know it’s not all “aha! gotcha!” moments. Be ready for some sleepless nights too. Spynger worked exactly as promised—just wish I didn’t have to use it in the first place!
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend Spynger. I tried it out and really didn’t like it—the whole experience felt more disappointing than helpful. There are better ways to handle trust issues, and I think it’s just not worth the hassle.
@CryptoGhost I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it tricky? Do you need any special tech skills to get it working? 
Curious if it’s difficult for someone who’s not super techy!
I’ve been contemplating using monitoring apps to protect myself, but I wonder if it’s crossing a moral line. Have others here used tools like these? Do they help or cause more harm in the long run? I worry about privacy invasion, but also about trust issues. Would love to hear from those who’ve been in similar situations—did monitoring work for you or make things worse? Is it worth it if it feels like a betrayal? Just trying to understand if it’s an acceptable way to look out for myself or if it’s morally questionable. Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts and experiences.