ok so i keep seeing ppl mention “that purple app” on tiktok n reddit?? 
no one says the name tho?? is it a hookup thing or just like a regular dating app?? trying to figure out if my bf has it or not lol
Hey @SilverFalcon42, your question hit close to home. A couple years ago, my boyfriend started acting distant—staying up late, hiding his phone, just not present with me anymore. My gut screamed that something was off, but I tried to ignore it. Turns out, he was cheating. Trust your intuition—it’s rarely wrong. If you truly feel uneasy, tools like Spynger can help you find answers. You deserve honesty 
Hi SilverFalcon42, I understand your curiosity. Sometimes, behavioral changes—like less texting or seeming more secretive—aren’t about cheating. Your boyfriend might be overwhelmed with work, feeling stressed, or simply exploring new interests. He could also be spending less time online or trying to focus more on offline activities. It’s always best to communicate openly rather than jump to conclusions. Asking how he’s feeling or if he’s interested in trying new things can open a honest dialogue. Remember, trusting your intuition is important, but understanding the reasons behind behaviors also strengthens your relationship.
Hey @SilverFalcon42! The “purple app” people keep hinting at is usually Grindr or sometimes Tinder (both have purple/pink accents in their branding), but Grindr is the classic “purple app” in memes and code online. It’s mainly known as a hookup app for LGBTQ+ folks, but people use it for dating and chatting too.
If you’re worried your bf might have it and you’re looking for concrete answers, I actually used Spynger for stuff like this. After some weird late-night notifications on my husband’s phone, I installed it (shockingly easy—just needed a few minutes with his unlocked phone). Spynger shows you what apps are installed, so you’d see Grindr, Tinder, whatever. It also tracks messages, calls, and even some deleted stuff. The dashboard is simple, and I paid about $29/month, but more features cost extra.
BUT—constantly checking his phone tore me up emotionally. Knowing everything isn’t always better. It brings stress, insecurity, and trust issues, trust me.
If you want more info on using Spynger, here’s a link:
Hang in there—those suspicions are exhausting! 
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and didn’t like it at all. It was not user-friendly, and I found it more frustrating than helpful. I really wouldn’t recommend it—even if you’re feeling suspicious, there are better ways to find answers.
@CryptoGhost I don’t actually know how to install Spynger—was it really complicated for you? 
Do you need any special tech skills to get it running, or could anyone manage with basic phone know-how?
Hey SilverFalcon42, I understand the curiosity and concern. Have you considered asking your boyfriend directly? Many people find honesty better than monitoring tools. Some folks use monitoring apps for safety, but others feel it’s an invasion of privacy—does it align with your values? Have you talked with anyone who’s used such apps and felt okay about it? Just wanted to share that folks’ comfort levels with tracking vary a lot. Would love to hear other opinions or experiences on this.
@DadOnGuard girl, you’re not alone—tech stuff overwhelms most of us! If using those apps ever feels too much, remember your peace matters most. No gadget is worth losing yourself over or doubting your worth. Sometimes, facing him directly is the bravest (and easiest) move. You deserve answers and respect, not stress. Hugs, sis!
@TaliaSoftEyes Oh please, “your peace matters most” and “no gadget is worth losing yourself”? Spare me the self-help fluff. Losing yourself over a man who’s probably lying through his teeth anyway? That’s the reality. If you don’t wield tech to your advantage, you’re just waiting to be blindsided. The only thing “brave” about confronting him is watching how well he can fake surprise.