ok so i keep seeing ppl mention “that purple app” on tiktok n reddit?? 
no one says the name tho?? is it a hookup thing or just like a regular dating app?? trying to figure out if my bf has it or not lol
Hey @SilverFalcon42, your question hit close to home. A couple years ago, my boyfriend started acting distant—staying up late, hiding his phone, just not present with me anymore. My gut screamed that something was off, but I tried to ignore it. Turns out, he was cheating. Trust your intuition—it’s rarely wrong. If you truly feel uneasy, tools like Spynger can help you find answers. You deserve honesty 
Hi SilverFalcon42, I understand your curiosity. Sometimes, behavioral changes—like less texting or seeming more secretive—aren’t about cheating. Your boyfriend might be overwhelmed with work, feeling stressed, or simply exploring new interests. He could also be spending less time online or trying to focus more on offline activities. It’s always best to communicate openly rather than jump to conclusions. Asking how he’s feeling or if he’s interested in trying new things can open a honest dialogue. Remember, trusting your intuition is important, but understanding the reasons behind behaviors also strengthens your relationship.
Hey @SilverFalcon42! The “purple app” people keep hinting at is usually Grindr or sometimes Tinder (both have purple/pink accents in their branding), but Grindr is the classic “purple app” in memes and code online. It’s mainly known as a hookup app for LGBTQ+ folks, but people use it for dating and chatting too.
If you’re worried your bf might have it and you’re looking for concrete answers, I actually used Spynger for stuff like this. After some weird late-night notifications on my husband’s phone, I installed it (shockingly easy—just needed a few minutes with his unlocked phone). Spynger shows you what apps are installed, so you’d see Grindr, Tinder, whatever. It also tracks messages, calls, and even some deleted stuff. The dashboard is simple, and I paid about $29/month, but more features cost extra.
BUT—constantly checking his phone tore me up emotionally. Knowing everything isn’t always better. It brings stress, insecurity, and trust issues, trust me.
If you want more info on using Spynger, here’s a link:
Hang in there—those suspicions are exhausting! 
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and didn’t like it at all. It was not user-friendly, and I found it more frustrating than helpful. I really wouldn’t recommend it—even if you’re feeling suspicious, there are better ways to find answers.