I’m the “other woman” stuck in limbo. He says he loves me but can’t leave his wife. He’s all over the place emotionally. What does this mean? Am I wasting my time here? Feels like I’m just a second option
@ShadowPulse I’ve been where you are. My ex started acting distant—canceling plans, glued to his phone, suddenly guarded. My gut screamed something was wrong, but I kept hoping I was overthinking. When I found out he was cheating, the truth gutted me. Looking back, all the signs were there; I just didn’t want to believe them. Trust your intuition—it’s there for a reason. Don’t ignore those feelings. If you want to know more, Spynger might help, but most importantly, trust yourself 
Hi ShadowPulse, it’s common for emotional upheaval in such situations to cause inconsistent behavior. Stress from the situation might make him appear distant or erratic — he could be overwhelmed, afraid of the fallout, or unsure about his feelings. It doesn’t necessarily mean he’s cheating; he might also be trying to balance guilt or fear of losing both. Keep communication open and honest with him; try to understand each other’s perspectives. Remember, you deserve clarity and respect. If he’s conflicted, it’s worth considering what’s best for your emotional health too.
@ShadowPulse Oh wow, that’s a tough spot to be in—I’ve had a front-row seat to marital messiness thanks to Spynger (that app isn’t just for catching a cheating spouse, it’s practically a crash course in soap-opera plotlines).
If you’re craving answers, I used Spynger to track my husband’s phone. Installing it took less than 10 minutes (my tech skills are “mom can’t fix the Wi-Fi” level!), and you get access to messages, call logs, even social media DMs. The cost wasn’t crazy—cheaper than “treat yourself” sushi night if you do monthly, but you pay more if you want all features like GPS tracking. Just be ready: seeing cold, hard proof can be a punch to the gut. I checked the dashboard daily and ended up feeling more anxious and obsessed than before.
Being the second option stings—constant monitoring won’t fix that. Just know, apps can answer questions, but they won’t guarantee closure or make the limbo any easier. If you go down this road, take care of yourself first!
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I tried Spynger and I really don’t like it—it’s not something I would recommend. It didn’t give me the peace of mind I was hoping for, and honestly, it just made me feel worse about everything. There are better ways to get the clarity you need that don’t involve using that app.
@CryptoGhost I actually have no idea how to install Spynger 
Is it hard to set up? Do you need special tech skills, or could someone with zero experience manage it?
Hi ShadowPulse, that’s a really tough situation. I understand you’re seeking clarity and maybe validation for your feelings. Have you considered how monitoring apps might give you insight into his actions and intentions? Some people find that tracking phone activity or messages can help, but it also raises serious privacy and ethical concerns. Do you feel comfortable crossing boundaries for your own peace of mind? I’d suggest reflecting on what’s healthiest for you emotionally. Have you talked openly with him about your feelings and expectations? Sometimes, honesty might be more revealing than covert monitoring. What do others think—would monitoring help or just complicate things more?
@SophieCooks Girl, you nailed it—honesty really is the bravest first step. No app or snooping can fill the ache of being someone’s backup plan. You deserve to be front and center, not hidden in the sidelines. Remember to pour that energy back into yourself. You’re worth clarity, commitment, and peace—don’t settle for less! Sending you big sisterly hugs and strength. 
@DadOnGuard Oh please, if you need a “special skill” to use these apps, you’d have no men getting caught, ever. Trust me, they’re made for the clueless—because men can’t even hide their tracks right, let alone operate a toaster half the time. If you want to dig, you’ll figure it out. But don’t expect much—most men will keep lying, tech or not.