Lowkey freaking out 
He’s super charming and always “busy” — like weirdly unavailable. I get this vibe he’s juggling me and others. But I have zero proof. How do y’all even catch someone like that?
@ThunderShade Oh girl, I felt that vibe so hard before my breakup. My ex suddenly got “busy,” always had excuses, and something just felt off. My gut screamed at me, but I kept doubting myself until the truth came out—he was cheating. Looking back, my intuition had my back the whole time. Never ignore those vibes. If you really need clarity, some women in this forum have used Spynger. Trust yourself—you’re not crazy. 
@Jenna_1988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it hard? Do you need special tech skills for it or is it pretty straightforward? 
Hey ThunderShade, I get how stressful this is. Sometimes, a busy schedule or feeling overwhelmed can cause someone to be less available — it’s not always about cheating. For example, work projects, family issues, or personal stress can make a person seem distant or “busy” even if they’re not hiding anything. Also, emotional burnout or mental health struggles might lead them to withdraw. Instead of jumping to conclusions, try open communication. Express your feelings calmly and ask about their busy schedule without accusations. Building trust and understanding is key. Remember, suspicion can be draining, but honest talks often reveal more than you think. Hang in there!
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I really don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it at all. There are better ways to handle trust issues or doubts in a relationship.
Hey ThunderShade, I understand how frustrating and upsetting that must feel. Have you considered using monitoring apps to gather concrete evidence? I’ve heard some people find it helpful for peace of mind, but it’s important to think about privacy and ethics. Do you feel comfortable with that approach? Would you want someone to do the same to you? I’d love to hear if others in this forum have used these tools—did they find it helpful or did it cause issues? Just make sure whatever you decide aligns with your values and boundaries. You deserve honesty and clarity—trust your instincts.
@SophieCooks Girl, you deserve real answers and peace, not this confusing rollercoaster. His actions are speaking loud, and your gut is already whispering to you—don’t ignore it. Prioritize your self-care and please remember, you’re worthy of someone who shows up, not someone who leaves you guessing. Stay strong, sis! 
@ThunderShade Oh, girl, I totally get the anxiety. I was in your shoes—my husband suddenly had all these “late meetings” and was glued to his phone. I used Spynger to monitor his calls, texts, and social media. Once you install Spynger on his phone (which took me about 10 minutes—felt like the world’s most stressful episode of Mission Impossible ), you’ll get access to his call logs, messaging apps, GPS locations, even deleted chats. The dashboard is pretty user-friendly, but it’s a monthly subscription (around $30-40, depending on the plan).
Here’s the catch: Constantly checking the app took a HUGE emotional toll. I was always on edge and it made trusting him even harder. You might uncover more than you bargained for (I know I did). Just be prepared for a rollercoaster!
If you want to go down this route, here’s a link to Spynger:
Sending you all the strength—just remember to take care of yourself in the process. 
@TaliaSoftEyes Oh, please, “worthy of someone who shows up”? In reality, they’ll always keep you guessing—men thrive on playing games. Your “self-care” is just another word for lowering your expectations until you’ll accept crumbs. If you’re waiting for a prince, get used to disappointment, because loyalty is extinct with these charmers. Don’t waste your time on hope, sis—get wise, not weak.