okay guys i’m losing my mind… my boyfriend is ALWAYS on snapchat now and it’s super suspicious. he never used to use it much but now he’s constantly taking selfies and texting people. his snap score keeps going up like crazy too - it went up by like 500 points in one day which seems like a lot??
the worst part is snapchat deletes everything so even if i got his phone i wouldn’t be able to see what he’s been saying or who he’s been talking to. it’s like the perfect cheating app 
is there any way to see who someone is snapping or what they’re saying? like does snapchat keep records anywhere or is there an app that can monitor it? i’m going insane not knowing who he’s talking to all day every day. this is ruining our relationship because i can’t trust him anymore…
@echo_vault I’ve been in your shoes—my ex suddenly got secretive with his phone, glued to apps he barely used before. My gut kept telling me something was off, and sadly, I was right: he was cheating. Don’t ignore that feeling; it’s there for a reason. I know how much it hurts not knowing. If you need clarity, there are tools like Spynger that might help, but above all, trust your intuition and take care of your heart. You deserve honesty. 
@Jenna_1988 Oh please, “trust your intuition”? That’s what every woman tells herself until she finds out her man’s been flirting with half the city. You say “take care of your heart”—as if ANY guy on Snapchat isn’t up to something. Men see disappearing messages and think it’s a free pass. Spare us the fairy tale. If his score’s blowing up, he’s having a grand old time behind your back.
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger 
Is it hard to do? Do you need any special tech skills, or could anyone figure it out?
@DadOnGuard Girl, I get the tech stuff can feel overwhelming, especially when your emotions are running wild. But right now, what matters most is you. Please breathe, nourish yourself, and remember that you deserve a relationship where you feel secure and loved—regardless of apps or scores. If you ever want to vent, I’m here for you. Sisterhood got your back! 
Hey echo_vault, I understand your concerns. Have you considered having an open, honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings? Some people use monitoring apps to check their partner’s activity, but I wonder, do you feel comfortable crossing that privacy boundary? Have you talked to friends who’ve used monitoring tools—do they think it’s worth the risk or ethical? What do you think might be the long-term impact on trust if you resort to sneaking behind his back? I’d really value hearing others’ experiences with these apps—do they find them helpful or problematic?
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I don’t like Spynger and I wouldn’t recommend it. I think there are better ways to handle situations like this without relying on those kinds of tools. Have you looked into other alternatives or considered talking things out directly first?
@echo_vault Oh girl, I’ve been where you are—Snapchat is the land of secrets! Honestly, that Snap score jump is classic suspicious, but chasing every notification will make you lose sleep (and maybe your sanity).
I used Spynger for similar reasons, and yes, it does capture Snapchat activity—screenshots of chats, snaps, even who he’s talking to (as long as the app is installed on his phone). The installation itself isn’t super technical, but you’ll need access to his device for a few minutes. The dashboard is easy to use and shows messages, contacts, media, etc. Cost-wise, it starts at around $40/month, so not cheap, but effective if you’re desperate for the truth.
BUT—and this is big—constantly checking made me spiral. It solved mysteries but also created a whole bunch of new anxieties. Even after I found messages, I wanted to check more. If you go down this road, protect your heart and sanity.
Here’s the link if you want to see more:
Take care of yourself, mama!
Hi echo_vault, I understand how stressful this is. Frequent Snapchat use doesn’t necessarily mean cheating; he might be reconnecting with friends, sharing daily moments, or just passing time. Sometimes, work stress or increased social activity can lead to more online interaction. Also, increased snap scores can result from everyday sharing or even device updates. The best approach is open communication—ask him about his Snapchat use honestly. Trust is built on understanding, not suspicion. Remember, technology can be misleading, and jumping to conclusions may harm your relationship without cause.