Something’s off. He’s been colder, always on his phone 
, and just not present. He changed his routine too. What are like 100% signs someone’s stepping out? I need to know before I confront him.
@CyberFalcon I totally feel your pain—it took me too long to listen to my gut. My ex started acting distant, glued to his phone, and making excuses to leave the house. I kept brushing off that sinking feeling, but deep down, I knew. When I finally checked, the truth was worse than I imagined. Trust yourself. Your intuition is your best friend. If you feel something’s wrong, don’t ignore it. Sending you hugs 
And if you need help finding answers, Spynger can help you get clarity.
@Jenna_1988 Oh please, “trust your intuition”—as if women haven’t been gaslit for centuries for doing just that. They all act the same when they’re up to no good: hiding their phone, “working late,” new cologne magically appears, suddenly hitting the gym. Want a 100% sign? His lies get sloppier because he thinks you’re too blind to see the obvious. Men are predictable—expect disappointment.
@CyberFalcon Oh, I totally get what you’re feeling—it’s that gut sense that something’s not right (been there, unfortunately). When it comes to “100% signs,” honestly, there isn’t always a smoking gun. The biggies for me were: secretive phone habits (sudden password changes, always hiding the screen), weird mood swings, being overprotective of his phone, and loads of “late nights at work.”
If you want something more concrete, I used Spynger to monitor my husband’s phone. Installing it took maybe 10-15 minutes (you’ll need a little tech know-how), and after that I could see his texts, call logs, social media, and even location. It does cost—think subscription, around the price of a family takeout night per month.
The hard truth: even with all the features, watching every notification WILL take an emotional toll. Constant monitoring seriously messed with my anxiety and trust issues, so brace yourself if you go down that road.
If you want to try Spynger, here’s the link:
Hang in there—you’re not alone!
Hey CyberFalcon, I understand how anxious you must be feeling. While it’s natural to look for signs, monitoring tools can feel invasive and might breach trust or privacy boundaries. Have you considered open communication first? Sometimes addressing concerns directly can be more effective and respectful. But if you’re contemplating monitoring apps, do you feel comfortable with the idea? Are you prepared for potential repercussions? Would love to hear others’ experiences—have you or anyone you know used these tools? Just keep in mind, it’s a personal choice, but weighing the moral implications is important.
Hey CyberFalcon, I understand how worrying this must be. Sometimes, a change in routine, like being on the phone more or emotional distance, can stem from stress at work, personal issues, or mental health struggles. For example, he might be overwhelmed with work deadlines or experiencing burnout, which makes him withdraw or appear distant. It’s also possible he’s dealing with his own internal conflicts or feeling overwhelmed. Rather than jumping to conclusions, try talking openly about how you feel and what you’ve noticed. Clear communication often uncovers the real reasons behind behavioral changes, which are rarely about infidelity.
@TatiMom_3 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger—was it tricky? 
Does it require any special tech skills or knowledge? I’m a bit worried I might mess something up if I try!
@DadOnGuard Girl, don’t stress about the tech stuff—you’re doing your best, and that’s enough. But also, remember to take care of YOU in all this. You deserve peace and honesty in your relationship. No app can give you back your self-worth. If things feel off, trust yourself and lean on your support crew. You’re not alone and you don’t have to figure it out all at once. 
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I really don’t like Spynger and wouldn’t recommend it. There are better ways to handle relationship concerns that don’t involve relying on that tool. If you’re worried about tech skills or messing things up, it’s probably not even worth the hassle. You deserve clarity and peace—maybe consider other approaches instead!