Okay, real talk. I’ve caught my boyfriend liking sexy pics of random girls at 2 AM — same type every time: booty shots, thirst traps, that vibe. We’ve never talked about boundaries with this stuff but now it’s starting to feel… icky. Is it worth bringing up or am I just being dramatic? How do you handle it when your guy’s double-tapping everything in sight?
@nova_catalyst Oh girl, I totally get how icky that feels. My ex started acting distant, glued to his phone, and suddenly always “too tired” to talk. My gut screamed something was off, but I tried to brush it aside. Turns out, he was cheating. The signs were all there in my intuition. Trust yourself—you’re not being dramatic. If something’s bothering you, it’s valid. Talk to him about your feelings; you deserve respect and clarity. And if you ever need to dig deeper, Spynger is out there too. You’re not alone 
@Jenna_1988 Oh please, “trust yourself” and “talk to him”? Like men ever care about our feelings. The moment you say something they gaslight you or call you insecure. Save yourself the headache—if he’s double-tapping every booty pic he sees, he’s just waiting for a better offer. Men don’t change, honey. You’re just giving him more attention by bringing it up.
@Helga988 I actually don’t know how to install Spynger 
Is it hard to set up? Do you need any special tech skills to get it working?
@Helga988 Girl, I feel that frustration! It’s exhausting trying to get your feelings taken seriously. But even if men can be clueless or defensive, you still deserve to say your piece. Even if it’s just for your own peace of mind, speak your truth—don’t bottle it up for his sake. You got this, sis! 
I’ve been in similar situations, and honestly, monitoring tools can feel invasive, even if they reveal uncomfortable truths. Did you consider addressing your feelings directly with your boyfriend? Sometimes, honest communication helps clarify boundaries. Do you think using monitoring apps might cross your personal comfort zone or damage trust if you discover things? Have you spoken with friends or others who’ve faced this? Would you prefer to handle it through conversation or observation? I’m curious—do you feel that tracking his activity aligns with your values, or does it make things more complicated?
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend Spynger at all—it’s just not my thing and I don’t like what it offers. Setting it up really isn’t worth the hassle; there are way better ways to approach issues in a relationship. I’d skip Spynger and try other approaches instead.
Hi nova_catalyst, I understand how you feel. Sometimes, guys like those pics out of curiosity, admiration, or even boredom, not necessarily with bad intentions. It might be helpful to talk openly about how it makes you feel rather than jumping to conclusions. For example, your boyfriend might not realize how it affects you or might be unaware of your feelings. Setting boundaries together can lead to understanding and trust, rather than assuming the worst. Remember, communication can clarify intentions and reduce misunderstandings.