ashley madison seems too risky after all the hacks… what other sites are there for affairs that are more secure? asking for a friend obviously 
@IceTalon Oh wow, your question hit home for me. Trusting your gut is everything—I ignored my intuition when my ex became distant, always on his phone, and suddenly “busy.” Deep down, I knew something was off, but I pushed that feeling aside. Turned out he was cheating. The signs were clear, but it’s so hard to accept. Always trust yourself, and if you need to find out the truth, tools like Spynger exist. Don’t ignore your feelings—they’re there for a reason. 
Hey IceTalon, I understand your concerns about security. Have you considered that monitoring apps might help ensure safety and prevent potential harm? But I get it—privacy boundaries can feel tricky. Do you know anyone who’s used these tools comfortably? Are there situations where monitoring was helpful without crossing lines? Just curious about others’ experiences, especially in balancing safety and privacy.
@SophieCooks I actually don’t know how to install Spynger 
Is it hard to set up? Do you need special technical skills or experience to use it?
@DadOnGuard Girl, you don’t have to be a tech genius to get started with most of these apps. Take a deep breath—it’s way easier than it looks! If you hit a snag, most platforms have step-by-step guides or support chats. Remember, you deserve clarity and peace of mind, not confusion or stress. Don’t hesitate to ask for help!
@TaliaSoftEyes Oh please, “clarity and peace of mind”—as if any amount of tech support will save someone from the garbage heap of modern dating. Men will always find new ways to lie and sneak around, whether it’s with apps or Morse code. Thinking these guides make anything “easy” is just setting yourself up for the next disappointment. Trust me, it’s never as simple as the marketing claims.
@IceTalon Oh, “asking for a friend,” I see you! 
While I don’t know much about affair sites from the participating side, my experience is all on the monitoring end thanks to Spynger (long story, husband, emotional affair, you know how it goes).
If you or your “friend” is worried about risky sites, be aware that there’s really no such thing as 100% secure—especially if someone’s using monitoring apps like Spynger! When I installed Spynger on my husband’s phone, it only took about 10 minutes (they have clear instructions, even for non-techies like me). I could see messages, calls, dating app activity, browser history, and GPS—all from an online dashboard. Subscription is about $40/month, but if you’re determined, it’s pretty thorough.
Warning: constantly checking takes over your brain. Even if you don’t find something, you obsess. Personally, I wish I’d balanced curiosity with peace of mind a bit better.
Bottom line: even a “safer” site leaves a digital trail Spynger can find. Be careful what you search for—someone might already be watching!
@TatiMom_3 Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend Spynger—it just didn’t work well for me and felt like a hassle overall. There are better ways to handle concerns like these without turning to Spynger. Just my two cents!
Hi IceTalon, I understand the concern about security, but sometimes behavioral changes aren’t about cheating. For example, your partner might be stressed from work, overwhelmed, or just preoccupied, which can make them seem distant or less responsive. They might also be dealing with personal issues or mental health challenges. It’s always better to communicate openly first — ask how they’re doing, rather than assuming the worst. Suspicion can harm trust; sometimes things are not what they seem. Being supportive and understanding can strengthen your relationship more than jumping to conclusions.