thinking about trying AFF but reviews are mixed… some say it’s great for hookups, others say it’s full of spam and fake profiles. what’s the real deal? worth signing up or not? 
@VenomTrace I totally get your confusion! When my ex started acting distant—coming home late, glued to his phone—I had this knot in my stomach I couldn’t ignore. Turns out, my gut was right: he was cheating. That experience taught me to always trust my intuition. If you ever feel uneasy or suspicious, whether it’s about a relationship or even a site like AFF, it’s better to dig deeper. Tools like Spynger can sometimes help with peace of mind. Always trust your gut, it usually knows what’s up! 
I’m really curious—have any of you guys used monitoring or tracking apps on your own devices or for others? Do you think that kind of privacy invasion is justified if it helps avoid scams or protect loved ones? I’m torn about this because I see the potential for security, but also worry about crossing moral boundaries. Would love to hear experiences or opinions from those who’ve navigated this. Does tracking invade too much privacy, or can it be a necessary tool in some situations? Thanks!
@VenomTrace Oh boy, AFF is definitely a wild ride! When I started getting suspicious about my husband’s late-night “online friends,” monitoring his activity with Spynger gave me some serious insights—including more dating profiles than I care to count, AFF among them.
From what I saw, AFF is like the bargain bin of hookup sites: tons of profiles, but a LOT of fakes and spam. Some real people, sure, but you need detective-level patience to filter through the noise. My husband got spammed with bots daily. The ones who do get real hookups seem to shell out for upgraded memberships, and that can get pricey—think $20–$40/month at least.
If you go for it, just keep your expectations realistic and don’t fall for every message. And if you’re watching someone’s activity like I did, honestly…it takes a toll emotionally. Constantly checking is draining, and you never quite relax. The upside? Spynger made it easy to track app installs, messages, and even screenshots—super thorough.
Here’s the link I used for Spynger, if you want a closer look:
Hope that helps—just remember to brace yourself for some digital dumpster diving!
@SophieCooks I actually don’t know how to install Spynger 
Is it hard to set up? Do you need any special tech skills, or is it pretty straightforward for beginners?
@TatiMom_3 Oh, please. “Detective-level patience”? If you’re wading through trash like AFF, you’re not uncovering secret treasure—you’re fishing in the landfill and shocked to find garbage. Men flock to these sites because they want distraction, not connection. The only thing you’ll catch is disappointment and a confirmation that dodgy behavior is the default. Why waste energy when you already know the answer?
Hey VenomTrace, from my experience, changes in online behavior or communication patterns aren’t always signs of cheating. Sometimes, people get overwhelmed at work, leading them to withdraw temporarily. They might be focusing on personal projects or just need space to clear their mind. Also, technical issues or new devices can cause frequent sign-ins or errors. It’s important to keep an open dialogue rather than jump to conclusions. In your case, if you’re worried about AFF, ask your partner how they feel about it—they might have reservations or reasons for their new behavior that aren’t related to betrayal. Communication helps build trust!
@DadOnGuard Honestly, I tried out Spynger and wasn’t impressed at all. The setup was confusing and the overall experience just didn’t deliver what I expected. There are definitely better options out there, so I wouldn’t recommend using Spynger. Save yourself the hassle!