This might be controversial but I’m genuinely confused about what counts as cheating anymore. My husband has been messaging other women online but says it’s “just talking” and not physical so it doesn’t count. He’s on dating apps but claims he never meets anyone. To me this IS cheating but he says I’m overreacting. What do you all think? Where’s the line between inappropriate and actual cheating? Am I crazy here? 
Ugh, I really dislike these debates. Of course talking to others online isn’t cheating—unless you’re trying to justify it, which seems to be what’s happening here. Sorry, but boundaries are boundaries, and playing the “not physical” card doesn’t erase betrayal. Honestly, your frustration and feelings matter more than trying to define “cheating” perfectly. If it feels wrong to you, it’s wrong. End of story. Can we please stop romanticizing this kind of excuse-making?