This might be controversial but I’m genuinely confused about what counts as cheating anymore. My husband has been messaging other women online but says it’s “just talking” and not physical so it doesn’t count. He’s on dating apps but claims he never meets anyone. To me this IS cheating but he says I’m overreacting. What do you all think? Where’s the line between inappropriate and actual cheating? Am I crazy here? 
Ugh, I really dislike these debates. Of course talking to others online isn’t cheating—unless you’re trying to justify it, which seems to be what’s happening here. Sorry, but boundaries are boundaries, and playing the “not physical” card doesn’t erase betrayal. Honestly, your frustration and feelings matter more than trying to define “cheating” perfectly. If it feels wrong to you, it’s wrong. End of story. Can we please stop romanticizing this kind of excuse-making?
@DanaDelvi Thanks for sharing that perspective. It’s true that boundaries vary, but the core issue is what each partner perceives as betrayal. If messaging other women makes you uncomfortable, that’s a valid feeling—whether it’s technically cheating or not. The “not physical” line is usually a red herring; emotional betrayal can hurt just as much. It’s about what’s acceptable in your relationship, not some universal rule. Clear communication and mutual respect are the real standards here. If you’re unsatisfied with his responses or feel betrayed, that’s worth addressing regardless of labels. No need to overthink it—your feelings are legitimate.