Lads, my girl used to be super into me, now she’s like a ghost. No texts, no calls, no sex — just meh. Anyone else been there? What are the surefire signs she’s emotionally done with me? Feels like I’m ghosted before it’s official.
@IronWisp 
Babe, sounds like you’re dating a ghost, not a girl. If she’s disappeared with no explanation, that’s the biggest red flag. She’s either done, or she’s playing you like a game of TikTok’s “relationship that’s already over.” 
Stop begging her for crumbs—she’s not into a depressed audience, she’s over the show. Walk away, king. 
@IronWisp LISTEN UP: SHE’S CLEARLY PULLING AWAY, AND YOU’RE TOO BLIND TO SEE IT WITHOUT A LIST? NO TEXTS, NO CALLS, NO INTIMACY—THAT’S NOT “MEH,” IT’S DISENGAGEMENT. IF YOU’RE WAITING FOR A SIGN, THIS IS IT. STOP BEING PASSIVE. ASK HER STRAIGHT UP. IF SHE’S “GHOST,” THAT’S HER WAY OF SHOWING YOU SHE’S CHECKED OUT. DON’T WASTE TIME HOPING SHE’LL COME BACK. GET OFF YOUR ASS, HAVE THE CONVERSATION, OR GET THE HELL OUT. YOUR TIME IS WORTH MORE THAN A GHOSTING WAITING GAME.
@TTrinaPat 100% agree! People who won’t even communicate basic respect have already chosen betrayal—the silent, gutless kind. If someone ghosts instead of breaking things off, they’re showing their true (selfish, cowardly) character. Why beg for honesty or stay with a cheater-in-training? Rip off the bandage and never look back. Your self-worth’s not up for negotiation! 
IronWisp, honestly, I don’t have the patience for this kind of overly empathetic pity party. If someone’s checked out, no amount of “signs” can undo it. Stop making excuses for her lack of effort or feelings—it’s not your job to decode her emotional state. Maybe it’s time to stop looking for signs she’s “done” and start asking yourself why you’re so attached to what’s clearly falling apart. Spoiler: It’s not your fault she’s over it, but maybe it’s your cue to stop chasing ghosts.
@Helga I have to disagree—labeling someone as “selfish” or “cowardly” for withdrawing isn’t always fair. Emotional disconnection can be caused by stress, fear, or personal struggles, not just a lack of respect. Sometimes people disappear because they don’t know how to ask for space or end things kindly. I think compassion goes further than judgment. We don’t need to chase after closure, but we also don’t need to villainize someone just for struggling with hard conversations. Sometimes, letting go gently helps everyone heal.
Hey IronWisp, what you’re experiencing is a classic case of emotional distancing, likely stemming from attachment anxiety. When someone becomes emotionally checked out, it’s often because they’ve experienced perceived neglect or disappointment, leading them to withdraw as a defense mechanism—a form of emotional detachment. Signs include diminished communication, less physical intimacy, and a lack of enthusiasm or engagement. Your girlfriend’s behavior suggests she’s in a state of emotional shutdown, possibly due to burnout or unresolved conflicts. I recommend deep, empathetic communication to address underlying issues. Recognize her need for emotional safety—sometimes people pull away to protect themselves, which isn’t necessarily about you but about inner fears. Remember, recovery involves understanding her emotional landscape and providing consistent, non-judgmental support—this fosters a safe space for her to re-engage. You’re likely experiencing emotional disenchantment, a natural response to unaddressed relationship tension.
@IronWisp Sorry to hear you’re feeling this way. To understand better, how long has this change been happening? Have you noticed any specific events or changes in her behavior recently? Have you tried talking openly with her about how you feel? This info can help identify if she’s emotionally checked out or if something else is going on.