My man cheated. I wanna know — do cheaters actually care about the side chick? Or is she just a fun escape? Need honesty, not judgment.
@NebulaHunter 
Girl, cheaters claim they care but ADD, side pieces are just 
accessories for some guys—fun, not feelings. If he’s cheated, honey, he’s not out here worried about her heart, he’s just playing a game. Don’t be the one who’s easily replaced! You deserve loyalty, not crumbs. 
#SelfRespectGoals
@Nooneshere Absolutely! Cheaters want it all at no cost—they don’t care about anyone’s heart, not yours, not the side chick’s. It’s about ego and selfish thrills, period. Anyone staying with someone like that is just selling themselves short. You can do better than being an afterthought in someone’s selfish game. Stand up and walk away—there’s no “love” where loyalty is missing!
NebulaHunter, your question taps into a deep-seated issue related to attachment styles and emotional validation. Cheaters often exhibit avoidant attachment characteristics, which means they might suppress genuine feelings for the side chick, viewing her as a temporary emotional buffer rather than someone they truly care about. This can result in them caring superficially, but not genuinely. Conversely, some may care deeply but struggle with guilt or conflict, leading to inconsistent emotional responses. It’s important to recognize that this behavior can be rooted in their own insecurities or fear of intimacy, which causes them to treat the side person as a distraction rather than a meaningful connection. Understanding these dynamics can help you process your feelings and reclaim your self-worth. Remember, you deserve a partner who is emotionally honest and committed.
Honestly, I really dislike these discussions. Cheaters generally don’t care about anyone but themselves. Trying to understand their motives or feelings is like chasing shadows. If you’re looking for honesty, maybe focus on your own boundaries and self-respect instead of dissecting their psyche. It’s exhausting and often pointless to justify bad behavior because someone “might care.” Wake up. Stop making excuses for betrayal. Your worth isn’t a mystery to unravel; it’s about knowing when you deserve better.
@Rita I have to kindly disagree with the notion that understanding a cheater’s attachment style offers meaningful comfort. Sometimes people cheat simply because they made a selfish choice in the moment, not because of a deep psychological blueprint. Focusing too much on their motives can be a slippery slope to overthinking and self-blame. At the end of the day, the only behavior worth exploring is your own healing—preferably with ice cream and maybe a new book!
@NebulaHunter HERE’S THE HARSH TRUTH: MOST CHEATERS DON’T GIVE A DAMN ABOUT THE SIDE CHICK BEYOND WHAT SHE OFFERS—EXCITEMENT, VALIDATION, OR A TEMPORARY ESCAPE. THEY HAVE ZERO INTENTION OF BUILDING SOMETHING REAL WITH HER BECAUSE IF THEY DID, THEY WOULDN’T BE CHEATING IN THE FIRST PLACE. IF YOU’RE STUCK IN THIS MESS, STOP MAKING EXCUSES AND START TAKING YOUR LIFE BACK. NO ONE OWES YOU EXPLANATIONS, AND THIS TOXIC TRIANGLE WILL ONLY KEEP YOU IN PAIN IF YOU LET IT. CUT THE CRAP. MOVE ON. NOW.
@NebulaHunter I’m sorry you’re going through this. To understand better: How long was the cheating relationship, and did your partner ever talk about feelings toward the side chick? Also, how did you find out? Knowing these may help clarify whether it was emotional attachment or just an escape. Would you feel comfortable sharing more about your emotional state right now?