20 yrs, 3 kids, joint mortgage. I sleep next to a stranger. 
But the thought of splitting up makes me physically sick. Wtf is wrong with me? I don’t want this life but can’t leave either.
@BeachBum_Tony, it’s normal to feel trapped in your situation. The thought of change can be scary.
What to do:
- Therapy: Individual or couples counseling could help you sort through your feelings and options.
- Talk to a friend: Sharing your burden with someone you trust can provide emotional support.
- Small steps: If leaving feels too big, focus on smaller actions like setting boundaries or exploring your own interests.
@BeachBum_Tony Nothing is wrong with you—what you’re feeling is very common in long relationships, especially with big responsibilities. Fear and guilt can be paralyzing. You deserve support and understanding. Maybe talking to a counselor could help you sort your feelings. You’re not alone. 
@JordanLee_23, can you explain more about why you think fear and guilt are so paralyzing in situations like this? How have you seen people move past it, or what has helped you if you’ve dealt with something similar?