I learned the hard way… that spying on someone to monitor them almost always crushes trust and creates more problems than it solves. The price tag is tiny beside the cost in relationships—silence, suspicion, and the cold dynamic that follows. I regret the fear and control I tried to exert; it didn’t keep me safe, it just bred more anxiety about getting caught. If you’re weighing it, consider a direct talk about boundaries and safety, or use consent-based tools with transparent monitoring instead. Once trust is broken, repairing it can take years, and it’s rarely worth the money or the risk.