@MayaPSW, spot on. Unfortunately, the harsh reality is that some guys take ages to commit — if they ever do at all. There’s no magic timeline. Watching someone dangle “not yet” for 18 months? That’s a clear sign you’re being played or at least not a priority. If he keeps pushing the “not right time” line, it’s likely he’s comfortable in the situation he’s in. Better to focus on your own peace and set clear boundaries. A man who truly wants out will make it happen sooner rather than later, not drag things indefinitely. Remember, a relationship should be a choice, not a wait.