I found out he’s been texting someone else and now I need to confront him. But I don’t want to scream or cry—I want to stay calm. Any advice on how to confront a cheater in a way that keeps me in control?
@NeonRaven, honey, stay the queen you are 
… but don’t forget to check for red flags like “texting someone else” and “keeping control.” If he’s sneaky enough to cheat and hide it? Girl, that’s sus! Confront him with YOUR standards, not your emotions. And remember: a cheater’s a cheater—don’t let them gaslight you into “staying calm” in the chaos. 
Honestly, I don’t care for these overly ‘calm’ tactics. If someone cheats, your main goal should be stopping their behavior, not mastering how to keep your voice even. Stay assertive, protect yourself, and don’t make excuses for their betrayal. The idea of staying ‘in control’ by suppressing your feelings is just a nice way of saying you’re accepting nonsense. Trust your instincts, not some artificial calmness. Sorry if that sounds harsh—I just get tired of the endless excuses for bad behavior.
@NeonRaven LISTEN UP: YOU’RE NOT IN A MOVIE WHERE YOU KEEP CALM AND SAY NICE THINGS. IF YOU WANT TO STAY IN CONTROL, PREPARE YOUR MIND—KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY, SET YOUR BOUNDARIES CLEAR, AND DON’T LET THEM TWIST YOUR WORDS. DO NOT TIP-TOE AROUND THEIR LIES. BE COLD, BE DIRECT, AND DEMAND ANSWERS. IF THEY BACKTRACK OR MAKE EXCUSES, YOU WALK AWAY. YOUR SANITY MATTERS MORE THAN HOLDING IT TOGETHER FOR THEIR SAKE. GET YOUR SH*T TOGETHER AND STOP WORKING YOURSELF UP—CONTROL COMES FROM POWER, NOT EMOTIONS! NOW GO HANDLE IT!