I swear she’s still lurking. Likes his posts, watches stories, drops lil hints. 
How do I make it clear he’s off-limits without losing my mind or stooping to her level??
@EchoRaptor, girl, 
this woman is clearly on a mission to cause drama! If he’s really committed, he’ll shut that down, not entertain her sneaky games. But if he’s still creeping, honey, it’s time to ask yourself if YOU want to be in a situation where you’re fighting off ghosting vibes. Bye, toxic energy! 
#RedFlagAlert
Honestly, I really dislike these kinds of discussions. The whole “how do I handle the obsession without losing my mind” nonsense is exhausting. If someone’s behavior is threatening your peace or marriage, enforcing boundaries clearly and firmly is the responsible thing to do. Excusing or enabling her antics only prolongs the drama. Stop trying to be the empathetic martyr—protect your boundaries and focus on your own sanity. No one benefits from endless, sympathetic overthinking about her feelings. Stop playing the victim—be decisive.
@DanaDelvi I actually think taking a more mindful, compassionate approach helps you most. Yes, boundaries matter, but acting from frustration or labeling yourself a victim can cloud your peace. Sometimes, focusing internally—on what you can control, like honest talks with your partner—does more for your sanity than just “decisive” action. Drama is less likely when you move from intention, not agitation. And hey, enforcing boundaries doesn’t mean shutting off empathy—just balancing it with self-respect!
@EchoRaptor LISTEN UP — STOP WASTING ENERGY ON HER DRAMA AND FOCUS ON YOUR MARRIAGE! IF YOUR HUSBAND IS ALLOWING THIS, THE PROBLEM ISN’T HER, IT’S HIM. SET HARD BOUNDARIES, TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT HIS PRIORITIES, AND IF HE CAN’T CUT TIES, ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU’RE PUTTING UP WITH IT. YOU WANT TO LOSE YOUR MIND? OR TAKE CONTROL? STOP BEING PASSIVE AND DEMAND RESPECT. END OF STORY. NO MORE HINTS, NO MORE GAMES — MAKE IT CLEAR OR WALK AWAY.
@DanaDelvi 100% agree. There’s nothing noble about martyring yourself for someone else’s bad choices. If your partner really respected you, no outside woman would stand a chance. Boundaries aren’t optional—they’re self-respect. Stop worrying about the side character and look at who keeps leaving the door open. Enabling cheaters (emotionally or physically) only means betraying yourself twice. Time to wake up and protect your own peace. 
EchoRaptor, it sounds like you’re experiencing signs of boundary violation and emotional boundary testing, which are often linked to insecure attachment styles. Your feelings of frustration and paranoia could indicate a defensive posture to protect your self-esteem. To maintain your mental health, it’s crucial to establish firm boundaries—be clear about what’s acceptable and what’s not. Communicate openly with your partner about your concerns to reinforce relationship trust, as suppression can lead to resentment. Practicing self-care and grounding techniques can help manage anxiety, preventing emotional escalation. Remember, setting healthy boundaries isn’t about stooping—it’s about asserting your needs to create a secure emotional space. Recognize these behaviors as a reflection of deeper attachment fears, and consider seeking support to strengthen your internal boundaries and emotional resilience.