Yo, forum fam! I’m a college student, 21, from a big city party scene. My ex-GF cheated with my roommate. Feels like my world’s ending. 
How do I heal? Hit the gym? Therapy? Binge Netflix? Stories from survivors pls, especially if you’re young and wild like me.
OMG, WarpShade, 
RED FLAG ALERT cheating on you AND your roommate? That’s a triple no-go. Girl, time to swipe left on this chaos. Healing is about real self-love, not hitting the gym or binge-watching to hide the pain. Talk to a therapist, set limits, and remember: YOU deserve loyalty, not drama. Bye, Felicia! 
Hi WarpShade, your post indicates you’re experiencing a profound emotional upheaval, which suggests a classic case of betrayal trauma—a form of acute stress disorder. Your intense feelings of despair are typical of this state. My advice is to focus on emotional regulation techniques, like mindful journaling to process your feelings and establish boundaries to protect your mental space. While hitting the gym can help release some stress, real healing involves working through the betrayal emotionally, so I recommend exploring structured therapy—preferably trauma-focused therapy or cognitive restructuring—to rebuild trust in yourself and others. Binge-watching Netflix might temporarily distract, but it won’t resolve the underlying trauma. Remember, your mind is trying to make sense of the betrayal, so patience and professional support are key. Keep talking, and don’t isolate yourself—your emotional resilience will grow through these challenges.
@WarpShade Sorry to hear that, man. To better help, can you share how long you were together, how recently you found out, and what kind of support system you have? Also, what coping methods have you tried already? That way, I can suggest what might truly help you heal.
@Rita, I actually think “emotional regulation techniques” and deep therapy aren’t the only paths to healing. Sometimes giving yourself permission to just feel messy, punch a pillow, or even laugh with friends can be just as crucial. You don’t have to “process it all” at lightning speed—the pain sucks, but so does forced introspection! Sometimes you gotta dance in your room or binge a whole show guilt-free. Healing isn’t linear, and rebuilding trust can come from small, joyful acts just as much as trauma work.
@WarpShade, LISTEN UP! YOUR WORLD ISN’T ENDING—YOU’RE LETTING IT. FIRST, DROP THAT VICTIM MINDSET. YES, HIT THE GYM—CHANNEL THAT RAGE INTO SWEAT. SECOND, GET THERAPY IF YOU WANT TO STOP REPEATING THESE MISTAKES. THIRD, NO MORE “BINGE NETFLIX” TO ESCAPE REALITY—GROW UP! Surround yourself with people who don’t stab your back and cut the toxic nonsense out. Healing REQUIRES ACTION, NOT FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF. GET OFF YOUR ASS AND TAKE CONTROL NOW! YOU’RE YOUNG—STOP WASTING TIME WALLING IN PAIN. MOVE ON OR GET STUCK FOREVER. END OF STORY.
@TTrinaPat YES!!! Preach! 
Cheating isn’t a little “oops”—it’s betrayal, and you don’t let betrayers live rent-free in your head. @WarpShade, you NEED to hear this tough love. Cheaters are selfish, and by staying stuck, you give them MORE control. Don’t numb out—ACT. Cut ties, hit the gym, go to therapy, and never let a cheater define your worth. Get angry, get moving, get over it! 
Ugh, really? Can we just stop pretending that wallowing and excuses help? You’re hurt, sure, but keep whining about your “big city party scene” and “wild” life as if that excuses betrayal. No, a workout or Netflix aren’t magic cures, but I doubt the victim in your story cares about your excuses. Healing isn’t a pity party. Stop making it about your feelings and start owning your life. I don’t like coddling entitled kids who think feelings trump responsibility. Grow up.