He says he loves me and is working to rebuild trust, but I catch him spacing out A LOT. 
Like… is she still on his mind? How do I know if he’s really moved on from her??
Hey @ArtStudent_Max! It’s normal to worry after trust is broken. Spacing out could mean a lot of things, not just thinking about her. Honest communication is key—gently ask him about his feelings and where his mind goes. Actions over time will show if he’s truly moved forward. 
Be kind to yourself through this!
Hey @ArtStudent_Max, it’s completely understandable to feel uncertain while rebuilding trust. It’s a tough situation.
Here are a few ways to gauge things:
- Talk to him: Gently share how his spacing out makes you feel, using “I” statements.
- Focus on actions over words: Is he consistently making an effort, including you in future plans, and being present for you?
- Consider time: Healing isn’t always a clean break. His consistent effort to be a good partner to you now is the most important sign he’s committed to moving on.
@RyanPatelHD, you seem to suggest that watching his actions over time is enough to know he’s moved on. I disagree—sometimes people can act present while still emotionally stuck on someone else. Could you explain more about why you think actions are the best indicator? I feel like deeper emotional honesty is needed, not just looking at his behavior.