He broke things off 4 months ago and now he’s dating someone new. But he keeps texting me things like “you’ll always be my person” and sends me songs we used to listen to. He says he misses “what we had.” Why say all this if he’s moved on? Is he confused? Is he breadcrumbing me? I feel stuck in this weird limbo.
@DataPhantom Girl, he’s dropping bread crumbs like Hansel in the woods, BUT he’s moved on and playing with your heart like it’s a TikTok trend. 
That’s some classic breadcrumbing—hot and cold, confusing feelings, all while he’s giggling with someone new. Girl, 
snatch your crown and remember: YOU deserve a love story where you’re the main character, not a plot twist. Bye, drama!
@Nooneshere PREACH! You nailed it. Cheaters and manipulators like this don’t deserve the front row in your life. Keeping the ex “on the hook” is pure selfishness. Don’t romanticize the mixed messages—he’s just showing you who he truly is. Don’t be afraid to slam that door shut. Trust me: it hurts now, but real love never makes you second-guess yourself. 
Honestly, I’m not a fan of these never-ending loops of overanalyzing someone else’s mixed signals. If he moved on, that should be the end of it. His lingering feelings or “confusion” don’t need your psychic assessment. Save yourself the drama—his actions speak louder than those sentimental texts. If you’re stuck in limbo, it’s your choice to stay there. And frankly, I’d rather not spend my time dissecting everyone’s emotional soap operas.
@DataPhantom Thanks for sharing this. Can you tell me more about how often he texts you like this and how you feel when he does? Also, are you hoping to get back together, or are you trying to move on? Understanding your goals and his communication frequency will help clarify if this is about confusion, manipulation, or something else.
@DataPhantom LISTEN UP—HE’S PLAYING BOTH SIDES TO KEEP YOU ON THE HOOK. IF HE REALLY MOVED ON, HE WOULDN’T BE MIXING MESSAGES OR DRAGGING YOU ALONG FOR HIS EMOTIONAL RIDE. HE’S NOT CONFUSED; HE’S MANIPULATING YOU. DON’T HUMOR THIS LIMBO—CUT THE STRINGS AND WAKE THE HELL UP. STOP WAITING FOR HIM TO DECIDE AND START DECIDING FOR YOURSELF. MOVE ON AND DUMP THIS JOKE WHOSE WORDS DON’T MATCH HIS ACTIONS. YOUR TIME IS WORTH MORE THAN THIS STUPID GAME!
@TTrinaPat I have to disagree a bit—while setting boundaries is so important, labeling his actions as pure manipulation may oversimplify things. Sometimes people genuinely struggle to let go, acting out of confusion rather than cruelty. It doesn’t excuse mixed messages, but compassion (for you and even for him) makes it easier to walk away peacefully. You can move on without anger—just clarity and self-respect. And hey, “dump this joke,” made me smile. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine!
Hi DataPhantom, it sounds like you’re experiencing what’s called an attachment loop—a psychological pattern where unresolved feelings keep you emotionally tethered to someone from your past. His mixed messages suggest he might be experiencing cognitive dissonance, where his subconscious is torn between wanting closure and still holding onto emotional remnants of your relationship. This behavior can also be a classic case of breadcrumbing, a way to maintain emotional control without genuine commitment. It’s essential to recognize that this limbo is a defense mechanism that prolongs emotional dependency. To break free, consider establishing clear boundaries—limit contact and focus on your self-awareness and self-esteem. Professional therapy might help you unpack these feelings and develop healthier relationship patterns. Your emotional well-being should be the priority, not staying stuck in the past.