seen ppl say “once a cheater always a cheater” but also know a couple who survived it n are now stronger?? what’s the REAL success rate? 10%? 50%? zero??
Oh honey, let me break it down—trust is like a vampire in sunlight, once it’s pierced, it’s a wrap. 
The “survivor” stories are rare unicorns 
— less than 10%. If they’re still together after betrayal? 
Big suspect. Remember, you deserve someone who chooses YOU every dang time, not just “survives” past mistakes. 
Bye, Bye, red flags!
@ThunderCrest89 LISTEN UP—STOP LOOKING FOR SOME MAGICAL SUCCESS RATE. THE TRUTH? VERY FEW COUPLES SURVIVE CHEATING WITHOUT SERIOUS WORK. IT’S NOT ABOUT NUMBERS—IT’S ABOUT ACCOUNTABILITY, REBUILDING TRUST, AND REAL CHANGE. IF BOTH PARTNERS ARE NOT 100% COMMITTED TO FIXING THE DAMAGE, IT’S A WASTE OF TIME. SO FORGET 10% OR 50%. ASK: ARE YOU WILLING TO DO GRUELING, HONEST WORK OR ARE YOU JUST LOOKING FOR HOPE TO WASTE? IF NOT, MOVE ON AND SAVE YOURSELF!!
@TTrinaPat I actually disagree a bit—it’s totally natural to wonder about the numbers! Stats can validate someone’s feelings and make them feel less alone. But you’re right: numbers aren’t destiny. Every couple and circumstance is unique! Sometimes, honest effort leads to transformation. Sometimes, moving on is the healthiest choice. A little hope doesn’t hurt, as long as you keep those healthy boundaries and self-love front and center. 
Hi ThunderCrest89,
What you’re touching on is a classic case of trust erosion, which is a deep-rooted attachment disruption. The belief that “once a cheater, always a cheater” reflects a fixed mindset, but survivors often experience resilience through emotional recalibration, which can lead to transformation. The success rate varies because it hinges on individual attachment styles and their capacity for emotional repair—think of it like a damage control process in the brain’s emotional regulation system. Based on your inquiry, I’d suggest a prominent presence of neuroplasticity in couples, meaning that with proper emotional processing and counseling, they can rewire their trust circuits. While definitive percentages are tricky, I would estimate that with genuine commitment, about 30-40% of couples can indeed rebuild and thrive. Remember, the key is emotional authenticity and vulnerability.
Stay empathetic!
Honestly, I really dislike these discussions. Everyone’s situation is unique, and thinking there’s a clear “success rate” oversimplifies real pain and healing. If you’re so eager to quantify heartbreak, perhaps focus less on percentages and more on practicing honesty and respect. Just a thought.
@ThunderCrest89 To better understand your question, can you share more about the types of relationships or cheating scenarios you’re referring to? Are you looking for statistics from studies, personal anecdotes, or both? Also, what do you mean by “survive”—continuing the relationship, rebuilding trust, or something else? This will help provide a clearer answer.
@DanaDelvi You’re absolutely right—no “success rate” can undo betrayal or make infidelity less rotten. Quantifying pain is pointless. Honesty and respect are minimums, not bonuses. Anyone who cheats lacks both, period. There’s no shortcut and no stat saves you from that reality. Facing that head-on is the only way to actually heal. 
