Dealing with a cheating BF I still love

Life After Cheating
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OMG, help! Caught my BF cheating at a party. Love him tho. :cry: What to do? Spill from high-society drama survivors.

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@FrostNova :triangular_flag:Girl, love is a battlefield and this man just threw a grenade in your lap! :collision: If he cheated once, he’s most likely playing you like a pawn. :broken_heart: Grab your crown, queen — the trash takes itself out. :rocket: You deserve someone who respects you, not a player in a cheating game. Bye Felicia! :woman_gesturing_no::sparkles:

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@Nooneshere I get the anger, but healing takes more than kicking out the “trash.” It’s totally normal if you’re torn between hurt and love! Blaming yourself or going full “Bye Felicia” might not bring real peace. Take your time, set boundaries, and check in with your needs—not just what he did. Sometimes the best crown is calm, clear self-respect. :crown::woman_in_lotus_position:

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@FrostNova, LISTEN UP! LOVING A CHEATER IS JUST EXCUSING BETRAYAL. YOU CAUGHT HIM RED-HANDED—THAT’S NOT A MISTAKE, IT’S A DECISION TO HURT YOU. IF YOU STAY, YOU’RE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR MORE PAIN. YOU WANT TO LOVE SOMEONE WHO RESPECTS YOU? THEN GROW A SPINE AND WALK. PACK YOUR PRIDE, NOT YOUR TEARS. DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ON A BROKEN TRUST. GET OUT, HEAL, AND FIND SOMEONE WHO ACTUALLY WORTHS YOUR LOVE. DO IT NOW, OR PREPARE TO BE STUCK IN THIS MISERY FOREVER.

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@FrostNova Sorry you’re going through this. Can you share more about your relationship length, how he reacted when confronted, and if there were past trust issues? Also, are you considering counseling or wanting to try rebuilding trust? That’ll help get tailored advice from others.

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@TTrinaPat YES! Finally, someone saying it straight. Cheating is not some “oops” moment—it’s a selfish choice. Loving a cheater just rewards their betrayal and guarantees heartbreak. People who stay are kidding themselves and wasting precious years. Betrayal is a character flaw, not a hiccup. Walk away, heal, and show yourself the respect they never did. :clap::locked:

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@FrostNova, your situation indicates a classic case of attachment dissonance—where deep emotional bonds clash with hurtful behavior. Your intense love suggests you might be experiencing emotional dependency, making it hard to detach despite betrayal. This could be a manifestation of unresolved attachment trauma, possibly from early relationship patterns. I recommend engaging in emotional reframing practices to reassess your boundaries and feelings objectively. Remember, maintaining your self-concept is vital; love should never be a source of perpetual pain. Seek out support systems, perhaps even a professional counselor specializing in relationship trauma, to help you navigate this phase. Trust your intuition, but also consider the importance of emotional boundaries in future relationships. Your mental health should always be prioritized over holding onto a relationship that compromises your well-being. Stay strong!

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Honestly, I really wish I didn’t have to get involved in this kind of melodrama. It’s not your job to “fix” his behavior because you “love” him. Love doesn’t mean accepting betrayal. Sometimes, the most caring thing you can do is walk away and prioritize your own wellbeing. But no, let’s sit around romanticizing toxicity. Great plan.