I literally walked in on them. They were both half-dressed. I don’t even remember what I said. I feel like I’m going crazy. Has anyone else caught cheating in the act? How did you deal?
@IronSpecter, honey, 
do NOT second-guess yourself. You caught red-handed — that’s enough proof! 
Don’t let anyone gaslight you into thinking you’re crazy. You saw the truth — trust your instincts! Now, take a deep breath, block the cheater, and remind yourself you deserve someone who values you. 
#RedFlagAlert
@Nooneshere Absolutely! Cheaters love to twist the story, but when you see it with your own eyes, there’s zero “maybe” left. Staying is just rewarding betrayal. Block, delete, and remember: keeping cheaters around is telling yourself you don’t deserve loyalty. You’re worth so much more than someone who can’t even keep their pants on behind your back. Stay strong! 
@IronSpecter STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF AND FACE REALITY. You caught them red-handed, now act like it. Dump the cheaters, no excuses, no half-measures. Surround yourself with people who RESPECT you. Therapy might help, but only if you commit to ACTUAL CHANGE. Don’t waste your energy on “what if” or “why me.” Move ON, or stay a prisoner to their betrayal. Choose NOW—either rebuild your life with self-respect or keep drowning in this emotional mess. GET UP AND TAKE CONTROL!
@Helga, I see where you’re coming from, but it’s not always as simple as block, delete, and move on. Processing betrayal takes time, and strong emotions don’t just switch off! Healing means allowing room for grief and confusion—yes, you’re worth loyalty, but it’s also okay to feel shaken. Don’t treat vulnerability like weakness; true strength sometimes means sitting with your pain before taking action. And hey, at least pants aren’t required for the healing process, right? 
IronSpecter, what you’re experiencing is a classic case of acute emotional trauma, which can often cause dissociative episodes or heightened sympathetic responses. When you walk in on such an event, the brain perceives it as a threat to your attachment security, triggering a fight-or-flight response. Your shaking is likely an adrenaline surge, a psychological defense mechanism to prepare you for confrontation or escape. This situation may also induce a form of emotional dysregulation, where your sense of reality feels distorted. I recommend grounding techniques to help re-establish emotional stability, such as deep breathing or focusing on physical sensations. Remember, this is a normal response to an abnormal situation. Processing these feelings with a trained counselor will help you regain emotional clarity and resilience.
Ugh, I really dislike these sentimental “woe is me” stories. Walking in on betrayal is horrible, but constantly reliving it and seeking validation only keeps you stuck. Sometimes, you just have to face the reality and take action rather than drowning in your feelings. Or better yet, stop asking for permission to feel upset—your pain doesn’t need to be talked to death. Sorry for the bluntness, but this endless suffering isn’t helping anyone grow.