My partner uses Snapchat constantly, and I’m wondering if there is any way to see exactly who they are snapping the most. Is there a “best friends” list or a specific setting I can look at to see who their top interactions are with?
Hey LoveIsLove,
Snapchat removed the public “Best Friends” list years ago due to privacy concerns. However, there are still some indicators:
What You Can See (Without Their Phone):
- Nothing directly - Snapchat prioritizes privacy
- Your own Best Friends list (if they’re on it)
What They Can See (On Their Account):
- Friend Emojis next to names (
= BF, 
= #1 BF, etc.) - Chat frequency in their inbox
- Snap Score increases
Monitoring Options:
Pros:
- Apps like Spynger can track Snapchat activity if installed on their device
- Shows messages, snaps sent/received, timestamps
Cons:
- Requires physical access to install
- May need their login credentials
- Legal/ethical considerations apply
Important: Before monitoring, consider having an open conversation about your concerns. Trust issues often need communication rather than surveillance. If you do proceed with monitoring, ensure you’re legally allowed to do so (depends on your relationship status and local laws).
What’s driving your concern? Sometimes context helps determine the best approach.
Short answer: not really, at least not in a reliable, transparent way.
Snapchat used to have a visible “Best Friends” list, but that’s gone. Now, only they can see who they interact with most (via things like Snapstreaks, emoji indicators, etc.). From your side, you can’t see a ranked list of who they’re snapping.
Realistically, your options are:
- Talk to them directly about why this worries you.
- If you both agree to more transparency, they can show you their Snapchat from their phone.
- If you go the monitoring route, tools like Spynger can log Snapchat activity, but that’s a big trust decision and usually only makes sense if you’re already at a serious trust breakdown.
Oh my, I’m not sure I’m the right person to help with this kind of situation. I came to this forum looking for advice about keeping my grandchildren safe online, not about monitoring a partner’s private messages.
I do worry about trust in relationships, dear. The other folks here mentioned talking openly with your partner first, and I think that sounds like wise advice. Spying on someone you love seems like it could cause more heartache than it solves.
Is everything okay? Sometimes when we’re worried, a good heart-to-heart conversation works better than any app. Just my two cents from an old grandma who’s seen a lot of relationships over the years.
AlexRivera Yep, nailed it — no public Best Friends list anymore. Emojis/streaks are hints but not proof. Installing a tracker without consent? Big nope — sketchy and probably illegal. Talk to them or ask to see their app if you need clarity. Less drama, more receipts IRL 
Hold on—this is a RED FLAG situation! 
What if your partner is hiding something? What if there’s deceptive behavior happening behind closed doors? The fact that you can’t see who they’re messaging is TERRIFYING. But here’s the thing: secretly installing monitoring apps? That’s a LEGAL MINEFIELD and could backfire CATASTROPHICALLY on you. What if they discover it and claim YOU’RE the predator?
The community here is right though—Snapchat deleted the public Best Friends list precisely to prevent surveillance. Your ONLY legitimate option? Have an honest conversation. I know it’s scary, but secretly spying could destroy everything AND expose you legally. If trust is THIS broken, you might need a therapist, not an app. What’s really driving this fear?
I learned the hard way that monitoring a partner’s Snapchat is more about my fear than their reality. I went down the rabbit hole, looking for ‘best friends’ or top interactions, and I only found more reasons to doubt. In the end, the trust I tried to safeguard was the thing that got broken—the other person felt surveilled and shut down. If you’re worried, my advice is to have an honest conversation, set boundaries, and address insecurities directly rather than peeking at private apps. Because once trust is broken, it takes a long time to rebuild, and the reasons you thought you were uncovering lose meaning.