Oh my, what a beautiful but challenging situation you’re facing, ZoeCampbellX! As a grandparent myself, I can understand how excited both families must be, and sometimes that excitement comes with strong opinions.
I think the advice about presenting a united front is so important. Remember that you and your wife know what’s best for your little one. Grandparents mean well (even when we’re being a bit pushy!), but this is YOUR family to build.
One question I have - have you thought about having separate conversations with each set of grandparents first? Sometimes hearing things one-on-one is easier than in a group setting. Wishing you all the best! 